When to Say "NO" to your Children

I’m sure that many of you who are parents will face the situation where you have to say “No” to your child. And yes, it can be a tough “No”. Even as they get older, saying no to their wants can be much more difficult. Many parents avoid saying no to their children because they don’t want to be considered unfair, mean or a bad parent. Some parents believe that children should have what they want as we only live once and we should be enjoying life to the fullest.

Today, not all parents are able to keep up with the demand of their children. The cost of living is always going up as with the luxuries that we all want and need. We have all these new and advanced toys that come with a high price tag.

It is important that you keep your ground with your children and set boundaries. There will be many times that you are going to have to say no to your child’s wants. Giving in to your child is not always a bad thing as long as you keep it under control. It is okay to say yes, but don’t say yes every single time. Saying no will help your child realize later in life that you don’t always get what you want. Be up front and honest with your child and let them know that you can’t always afford to buy them everything they want.

It is also important that when you say no, your spouse will have to stand by your decision. Otherwise, it will deflate the authority of the parent as the child will learn that there is “another way out”.

When telling your child no when they want something, make sure to let them down in an easy way. Again, be sure to be honest and explain to them why you are saying no. Tell them no in a nice and polite voice. Don’t scream or raise your voice unless your child gives you reason to raise your voice. Once you say no, stick your grounds. Don’t back down and change your mind. Keeping your grand will give your child a feeling of security which is needed.

If you are able to keep calm, it will rub off good behavior to your children. After letting your child down, offer them something in exchange. Offer them to make their favorite dinner, go to the park, watch a movie, etc. Your child will appreciate what you will offer.
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